Ageless Love

Have you ever seen a fragile elderly couple walk together hand in hand, or look after each other in public in a very affectionate manner? What effect does it have on you when that scene occurs in front of you?

If you are a Venusian like myself, you would probably feel heartened, touched and sweetened. You would probably feel a little envious and compare yourself to that couple and wonder if you and your partner would ever last that long and if you would ever be that lovey dovey at that age.

Ponder this: what’s the difference between the love you see from an elderly couple and a young couple? And why does the scene of an affectionate elderly couple linger in your memory and touch your soul while the scene of a pair of young love birds hardly ticks in your mind?

We all know the answer, don’t we? Because love is like wine. It gets better with time. True love is a connection with another soul. It doesn’t matter if your physical youthfulness is lost as every living being on this planet cannot preserve their physical youthfulness forever. Yet love can stay and continue. Time, gives a relationship plenty of room and scope for growth and improvement, like it does to life. That’s why marriages that have lasted for decades seem to be the happiest and most fulfilled ones around. That also explains why when we see love demonstrated from an affectionate elderly couple, we are instantly drawn and infiltrated by their lovewave. Love is more than skin deep. Like the brewing of wine, a perfect relationship takes years and years of practising, nurturing and enhancement . Good things take time.

I received a flattering statement this morning in bed when hubby whispered in my ear that he is happy and that our marriage is perfect, followed by a lengthy ‘analysis’ as to how our marriage has enriched his life and how much we have accomplished together. Here is a reason why I am loving a shared life with someone so much - our relationship is forever changing and evolving. I remember in our early days we tended to do things together more rather than being reflective and exchange our deepest feeling, emotions and thoughts; whereas now we still do things together, we have become more vocal and expressive. We take the time to appreciate each other in both gestures and in words. We are not afraid of being liberal or philosophical. We are more giving, honest and at home in each other’s company. We like ourselves more. We started with love and lust based mostly on physical attraction and now we have gradually merged into one where we can sometimes read each other’s thoughts and connect to each other at a soul level. Although we’ve only been together for nine years and we are technically not 'old', I realise that growing old together with someone is such a wonderful thing. I am not afraid of growing old and become a fragile elderly lady. On the contrary, I look forward to it. I am absolutely sure that the best part is yet to come.

In today's world, aging seems to be a common fear. Many people are desperately trying various things to preserve their youth. While I am certainly not anti the thousands of modern methods available which can make people look younger and feel better and delay the aging process; I do believe, however, that we should be clear of what is preservable and what is not. We can certainly look younger and better, but all the good feelings in the world resulting from purely physical cannot compare to the feelings resulting from self love and love of others.

Love, only love, is ageless.